Posts Tagged ‘shame’
Tuesday, December 18th, 2007
As anyone who’s been to San Francisco knows, if you walk around the city for a while, you’re sure to meet some colorful characters. I met one such person the other day in a park. She was middle-aged, and she wore a rainbow-colored dress embroidered with hearts and llamas. I guess I was smiling, because [...]
Tags: childhood, emotion license, emotions, explaining emotions, judging emotions, justifying your feelings, repression, right to be angry, shame
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Thursday, December 13th, 2007
Not surprisingly, when I was thinking of leaving my old job as a lawyer, a number of different fears about the consequences of my decision arose. I was surprised, however, by one of the fears I experienced—the fear that, by leaving, I would “betray” my colleagues. I felt as though I would break some commitment [...]
Tags: anxiety, betraying others, breathing, career change, Career Transition, commitment, fear, fear of annihilation, Mindfulness, promises, responsibility, shame
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Wednesday, December 12th, 2007
Do you have trouble accepting compliments? I definitely did at one time. When someone would say something nice about me, I’d get bashful and downplay the aspect of my character or accomplishments they’d pointed out. For instance, if someone at work said “you did a great job on this project,” I’d say something that suggested [...]
Tags: abundance, compliments, deflecting compliments, downplaying compliments, guilt, scarcity, shame, taking a compliment
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Tuesday, December 11th, 2007
I have a friend whose business, in his view, has failed. He’s been trying to start a hedge fund, but he hasn’t attracted the investor interest he wanted. The saddest part of this experience for him is what happens every day when he leaves his apartment building. There’s another man who lives on the street [...]
Tags: auditions, being better than others, career change, Career Transition, competition, gunning for others, motivation, performance anxiety, shame
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Monday, December 10th, 2007
I want to tell another story about my friend, the computer programmer who wants to be an interior designer, because my conversations with her raise so many fascinating questions about the challenges surrounding career transitions and pursuing your calling.
My friend is fully ready to start her interior design business—she’s got the ambition, the capital, and [...]
Tags: apologizing, career change, Career Transition, defending yourself, entrepreneurship, guilt, justification, justifying your choices, life purpose, shame, true calling
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