I wrote an article a while back about how, ultimately, many of our anxieties can be traced back to a single fear—the fear of annihilation, or nonexistence.  I described a few exercises we can use to grasp this fact at a deep, visceral level.  In this article, I’ll talk about a method I’ve used to [...]

I often work with people who feel crushed under the weight of their obligations.  They have so much to do, and they’re constantly worrying that it won’t get done.  When I suggest they can calm themselves by changing the way they think, I’m usually met with skepticism.  “Changing how I think won’t make my obligations [...]

My friend, a highly-paid financial professional, often complains about her job.  She doesn’t like the long hours, the difficult people, the office politics, and so forth.  Usually, I just sit and listen to her concerns, because it feels like she’s more interested in a sympathetic ear than anything else.  But one day, I couldn’t help [...]

Not surprisingly, when I was thinking of leaving my old job as a lawyer, a number of different fears about the consequences of my decision arose.  I was surprised, however, by one of the fears I experienced—the fear that, by leaving, I would “betray” my colleagues.  I felt as though I would break some commitment [...]