There’s a part of me that doesn’t care about you.  It’s not here to solve your problems, lend you an ear, or serve you in any other way.  It looks out for me and me alone.
Isn’t that a terrible thing? Actually, I don’t think so.  In fact, I think acknowledging I have a “selfish” part [...]

(This is Part 2 of my review of Spiritual Bypassing by Robert Augustus Masters.  You can view Part 1 here, and you can also buy it through this pure-as-driven-snow non-affiliate link.)
For a long time, I harbored a belief that came from reading and listening to spiritual teachers.  The belief was that, when I feel upset, [...]

It’s become common in business literature to say that entrepreneurs who care about others tend to be more successful.  Thus, say business authors, it will profit you to act like a caring person.  Say “thank you,” smile, look into people’s left eye, let them do most of the talking, and so on.
I think it’s true [...]

My last post was about empathic reflection—the practice of reflecting back the desires and emotions of the person you’re listening to.  While this may sound simple, it’s trickier than it sounds.  When an interaction starts to feel emotionally intense, it’s easy to fall back into old, reactive patterns of thinking and behaving.  If someone is [...]